Thame Counselling with Jenny Todd

Sexual problems can stem from your current circumstances, from beliefs you developed in earlier life, or a combination of the two. Usually sexual problems in a relationship cause tension and 'closing down' - often with at least one partner beginning to feel a failure.

An initial assessment session, in a friendly relaxed setting, will help you to break down the barrier of talking about problems, making it easier for you and your partner to start to communicate and look at ways of resolving them together.

I will then explore with each partner individually the reasons behind the problems, looking at family beliefs around sex, events in the past which may have affected sexual behaviour and what you would hope to realistically achieve from sex therapy.

Together we will agree a treatment plan specifically for your own problem, with agreed goals. The treatment plan will involve tasks to be carried out at home, helping to diminish performance anxiety and encourage more positive communication between you both.

During our weekly sessions we will review progress and set new tasks; we may use psychodynamic insights to bring to conscious awareness those beliefs and thoughts which are adversely affecting your sexual relationship; we will work on reframing them using cognitive behavioural techniques (CBT) in order to enhance sexual intimacy and trust.

Psychosexual Therapy requires commitment and patience, but can be most beneficial in changing your intimate sexual and couple relationship for the better.

"Consummate guidance and understanding, Jenny was first class, thank you for everything. Seeing Jenny has given us more depth and opened a huge door" Client couple Oxford